Mentor, Boss or Friend?

May 14, 2012

Does it have to be either/or?  Why can’t it be both/and?? We were riding in his car . . . someplace. There was no hurry and it was taking a while because of traffic. He was pastor of a fair sized church.  He’d payed his dues in lesser pastorates, but he got a boost at […]

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“God-Esteem:” The Secret of “Just Bein’ Me” . . . and Enjoying It!

May 4, 2012

A college student tells me what her parents are pushing her into doing because, “it’s in your best interest.” A wife talks about not feeling loved by her husband because she can’t keep the house as clean and orderly as he expects. A youth minister tells about the loneliness he feels because his lead pastor […]

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Once Upon A Time, I Heard About a Pastor Who Was Loved By His Staff . . . .

April 30, 2012

No . . . it really did happen! Once I did hear about a pastor who was loved by his staff.  (O.K. . . . It might have happened twice.) <— (HYPERBOLE) The Reality of Working In a Church Environment Unfortunately, it hasn’t happened much more often than once or twice, but not much more.  […]

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“Twice as less . . . .” = 1/2 as much . . . maybe!?

April 26, 2012

I was listening to a discussion on a talk radio show the other night on the way home from the office. Well-educated, seemingly intelligent people were in a discussion about the latest hoopla in the news. One of the “experts” was driving home his point when he pointed out a study which revealed that the […]

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Confessions of a Recovering Youth Minister

April 8, 2012

Ya know, I’ve been working really hard to be so-o-o-o scholarly and academic in my articles so everyone would be impressed and want to work with me (or get me to work with them) to improve their ministry. So much for the scholarly, academic impressions.  I don’t think it’s impressing anyone after all. The fear […]

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Your Staff Is Your Key to Success

March 26, 2012

You’re the lead pastor of a church where your service is greatly appreciated.  You have a staff of ministers who are committed to God’s work.  You’ve been the leader the church has been looking for. What’s going to keep you from guiding this flock to reach and disciple more people? The answer is . . […]

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WHEN INTIMACY IN CHURCH ISN’T WRONG: 7 ways the body of Christ is meant to be God’s physical presence for us

March 20, 2012

In church!  Are you kidding me!! Hold on there, pardner!  We’re not talking about . . . sex (read that word in hushed tones). Read on. . . . I spent three days at a marriage and family conference recently.  It was actually pretty good. In one of the breakout groups the role of intimacy […]

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5 Important Communication Tips That Have Nothing to Do With Sermons or Bible Study!

March 12, 2012

Whaddyamean I Don’t Communicate!?  That’s My Job!!   I worked with a lead pastor for three years who was one of the most incredible pulpiteers I’ve ever heard. Without an outline in the order of service or instructions from the pulpit, many in the congregation would pull out pen and paper when it was time […]

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Youth Ministers Don’t Get No Respect!

March 2, 2012

Some observations about Youth Ministers are hurtful “He connects well with teenagers because he’s as immature as they are.” “I sure wish I could get paid for playing with kids all day!” “Whaddaya mean you didn’t get to the church office till 10 a.m. Monday because you had a fellowship with the kids after church […]

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The Toughest Pressure a Minister Might Face

February 22, 2012

WHEN FELLOWSHIP IS A HARDSHIP I’ve been to a few of the area pastors meetings in those cities in which I lived.  There really weren’t very many of them to tell about.  At least, I didn’t go out of my way to attend.  I’m not an especially big convention/meetings person, unless it seems that it […]

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